Rita’s MODEST Fashion tip

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Rita’s MODEST Fashion tip

by Rita Davidson

On my Facebook page the other day, I shared a QUICK Modest Fashion tip that everyone loved. So thought I’d share it with you here.  Nothing strange or amazing, but sometimes we really OVERthink modesty.   

Rita’s Modesty Fashion Tip;

when you don’t know WHAT to wear?  This is my FAVORITE GO-TO tip.

  1. Grab an oversize white T-shirt.
  2. Dress it up with a scarf (I’ve recently been called the Queen of Scarves!) haha! I”ll take that name thank you! :)
  3. And layer it with a necklace too. (see that’s what I’ve done)
  4. Pair it with your favorite skirt in any color.
  5. Skirt can colorful or plain, denim or maxi, it doesn’t matter!
  6. Be sure to match your accessories TO YOUR skirt for style.
  7. Now go buy yourself some inexpensive oversized (not TOO big) white t-shirts and don’t keep saying you can’t afford to be modest. :)
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Rita’s Modest Fashion Tip

That’s it!  Fast, easy, modest! FUN!

How do you make modesty easy and fun?

SHARE your tips here, so others can use them too!

With love,

Rita Xo :)

RitaBiosmRita is a Catholic wife, and mother of seven, with three autistic boys.  Author, of “Immodesty, Satan’s Virtue” (2001) and speaker, she has a PASSION for making #realcatholicmodesty understood. She is a licensed Hairdresser, and Make Up Pro with a degree in Natural Health who enjoys essential oils. She enjoys making people smile and sharing God’s love with anyone who will listen. After overcoming a stroke, disabilities, they lost everything in a devastating house fire that made them homeless for six months. She is determined to lead souls back to Christ by finding the #realcatholicbeauty in their lives by carrying their crosses with Joy!

Real Catholic beauty, means leaving your SIN behind

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Real Catholic beauty, means leaving your SIN behind

By Rita Davidson

In this fifth post in this series, I’m exploring BEAUTY, not just the worlds view, but God’s view of beauty. You can find other posts by putting the hashtag #RealCatholicBeauty in the search box.

As an infant, we are depended upon our mothers for all our needs. Little babies are so sweet in their innocence that we cannot help Not to LOVE them. (let’s leave aside the pro-abortion mothers here for now).

As we grow, and become of age, the Church has given us Sacraments to help us as our innocence comes of age. As I am talking to my Liam at age 5, I am reminded he will soon be able to make his First Communion and I am really planning ahead. He’s a really active fella. SO much that he leaves his mama in the dust most days. J Rosary time is very hard for him to sit still so I see now is the time to start engaging his imagination into what his spiritual life will become.

It’s easy enough to engage them at 5 and 7 when their wonder is still alive and new. Everything is so exciting, from seeing a cow in the field (we have new neighbors now, didn’t you hear?) and seeing the Fatima story for the first time, (oh the awe they have is priceless).

But it seems the more they grow away from their childhood, the harder the faith becomes for them. 7 and 9 is pretty easy, 10 and 12 maybe so. 13 now your starting to get some real questions and anything above that your going to see, questions, doubts, and for some real rebellion too sadly.

As a mother of 7 I have seen too much of the rebellion. I am reminded that God has their lives planned just as much as our own lives planned and we can’t try to force their lives once they are adults any more than we would appreciate anyone forcing us to do something contrary to us. That is why getting them  young is SO important.

The transition from youth to young adult is one of the biggest dangers as well as the proudest time for a parent. The faith you have tried to impart since their birth is finally ready to take flight and you only hope their take off is all you hoped and planned for. But some of us don’t do that planning so well and that transition “take off” is in fits and starts.

Maturity in the world is when I child is ready to get their license and have an abortion. Maturity in the faith is when the child begins taking on the faith as their own. Saying their rosary without prodding or reminding on their own. Saying their prayers regularly without reminders. Talking to God on their own. These are all signs their faith maturity is going well.

But maturity must be helped by education. So many of us are products of the Church AFTER Vatican II and that means most of us are not well catechized at all. I knew virtually nothing about the real faith when I left Catholic school. Not nearly enough to take it into my adult life. So many of us have found ourselves smack into REAL LIFE and often some tangled situations that we have to pull ourselves from if we want to remain in the Catholic faith. That is when REAL life starts to hit. Now all those years in Catechism you sure wished you had listened. Suddenly your heart is pulling you one way and the Holy Ghost is drawing you to Him. The never-ending struggle. It’s a terrible place to be. But it’s a place I find many people in today.

When a person finds themselves suddenly awakened and their life has gotten them WAY off track they can’t find themselves back. But that AWAKENING is God’s graces pulling you. You see God sometimes lets us get ourselves way off track. He lets us spin our wheels with hardly a peep from Him. The patient Father that He is. Then suddenly the blinders are removed and we find ourselves exposed, naked in front of God not knowing how we got there.

But it’s to find our way back. Often that way back is clouded and dark. And I won’t hesitate it’s that way purposely by Satan who would rather us remain in our sin. That cloudedness comes from our attachments to sin that makes us THINK we can’t give it up. We see God way over there, and we are WAY OVER HERE, but the path from here to there is blurred. That makes us scared and makes us procrastinate. I’ll figure this out tomorrow, I’ll go to confession next time. And life passes by. The farther we get out to sea, the more we lose sight of land. That is our spiritual life in a nutshell. We are only hesitant because we can’t see what’s on the other side.

Now you are trapped out there in no-where land and you get that pull to come back. That is the time to LEAVE your sin behind. It’s dark and the way is unknown, but that grace from God will only last so long.

Eternity is EVER so long and our life is EVER so short, we cannot waste it by bypassing the graces that come our way.

God only EVER wants to see our salvation. He weaves the intricate pattern of our life of grace here and there. He has it all planned out how He will pull us back. But we must be always listening, learning, loving otherwise we will miss the call and never find our way back.

That first call to Real Catholic Beauty, must be to GIVE up YOUR SIN. It is hard, and the way is dark, but God’s grace is sufficient. Whether it is sloth, or pride, impurity or vanity, we must be willing to step forward in TRUST and that is hard.

It is not going to be easy, you must PRAY for it. God will give you the courage and the graces you need to find your way back. The more you TRUST HIM the more HE will BLESS you. Make the choice today to step out in faith and to leave your sin behind so God can make you into the saint He wants you to be.

You have no idea the majesty and beauty of Jesus and how much He loves you with an unending love. Lean on Him and leave your SIN behind and make #RealCatholicBeauty your choice today.

With love,

Rita Xo :)

RitaBiosmRita is a Catholic wife, and mother of seven, with three autistic boys.  Author, of “Immodesty, Satan’s Virtue” (2001) and speaker, she has a PASSION for making #realcatholicmodesty understood. She is a licensed Hairdresser, and Make Up Pro with a degree in Natural Health who enjoys essential oils. She enjoys making people smile and sharing God’s love with anyone who will listen. After overcoming a stroke, disabilities, they lost everything in a devastating house fire that made them homeless for six months. She is determined to lead souls back to Christ by finding the #realcatholicbeauty in their lives by carrying their crosses with Joy!

Real Catholic Beauty, means loving your Mother

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Real Catholic Beauty, means loving your Mother

By Rita Davidson

Regardless of what year you were born you were born to – a mother.

No matter how angry you are at your own mother, you had – a mother.

Even if you do not have children of your own, you still have motherhood in your heart for all those who you love with a mothers heart.

Yesterday was Mother’s day, but this wasn’t the only thing that made me explore this topic. Let me explain.

If you are young enough to still have your mother, you are lucky. I am blessed to still have my mother. Though I never knew my grandmothers, I always wished I did.

When I was young I went through a terrible time with my mother. I blamed her for everything in my life. Recently I was reminded of this when I found a letter of mine to her at age 12 or so. We have been going through all her papers and sorting things. It’s been kind of bittersweet for me as we lost everything in our fire, and so it’s odd to see some things of mine that my mother finds amongst her things. But this letter, Oh the piercing words I wrote to her. The bitter words. How could God save this letter for me, after all these years?

It was one of the memories I had forgotten. I would have liked to forget this one. How battered our mothers are. Honor your Mother and Father means nothing when you’re a teen. We can be so cruel to our mothers.

I hear from SO many heartbroken mothers who have children that will no longer speak to them. The pain in their hearts I know so well. Fast forward; I too have those same cruel letters written to me by my own flesh and blood.

As my own mother is now aging I am trying to care for her increasing needs as well as I can. As her memory fades and her gait is slower, I am reminded how, I thought this woman was my worst enemy, keeping me from my “life”.

I struggle knowing how childish and selfish I was and knowing all I can do now is make up for those hard years and do the best I can.

But we all have another Mother that we often forget. Sometimes we are even cruel to her and her heart breaks too. How often do we remember Our Lady? She was the greatest example of perfect motherhood. It was she who brought salvation into the world for us. How often do we remember her? How often do we heed her call to “say the rosary daily” for the “conversion of sinners”?

As this is the Month of Mary – May I’ve started to read an old book I have on Fatima. May 13th will be the 98th anniversary of her appearance at Fatima. 98 long years ago she appeared to 3 shepherd children to pass along a message and a secret. As I look over the last 98 years I see how the Church has crumbled. The faithful are struggling to find the faith, and keep their families together. Society has an ever, greater push for sins that cry to heaven for vengeance.

While Catholics are sleeping at the helm and bewailing the “great chastisement” coming, they are missing the boat.

In 1917 our Lady said, “If people will do what I will tell you, many souls will be saved, and there will be peace.”

“Continue to say the Rosary everyday in honor of Our Lady of the Rosary to obtain peace for the world and the end of the war; for she alone can save it.”

The unborn are now killed by the MILLIONS – EVERY YEAR. How is THAT for a Mother’s day statistic? Just looking at these statistics we see how 37% of women getting abortions in the US are some form of Christian – 28% CATHOLIC. 1 What does this say for the Church today?!

If 28% of Catholic women can walk into an abortion clinic today and let their unborn baby be torn from their wombs, who is DOING what Our Lady asked at Fatima?

The reasons women gave for having an abortion:

“Three-fourths of women cite concern for or responsibility to other individuals; three-fourths say they cannot afford a child;

three-fourths say that having a baby would interfere with work, school or the ability to care for dependents;

and half say they do not want to be a single parent or are having problems with their husband or partner” 2

Death has now entered the Church. While we are all bemoaning the downward slide to euthanasia in the Netherlands and the push for it in America, we are being battered on all sides by the death machine that is seeking to distract us all from the task at hand. While the faithful sit around and store up “canned foods” and “special seeds” for the dark days ahead, where are the faithful that are fulfilling Our Lady’s request at Fatima?

Our Mother in heaven, didn’t ask us to store up anything, she asked us to say the Rosary everyday to obtain peace for the world, she alone can save it. She alone is the answer to the evils that are enveloping our world.

We must NOT be fooled into thinking ALL is LOST. If all is LOST it is because not ENOUGH of us are doing what is required of us. That is why I don’t believe in the “coming chastisement”, or the “Three Days are darkness”. Sorry I just don’t.

I believe we all hold the KEY to bringing peace back to our families and the world. They are only distractions planted to keep us from doing what Our Lady asked.

What did she ask? “Sacrifice yourselves for sinners; and say often, especially when you make some sacrifice:

“My Jesus, it is for love of You, for the conversion of sinners, and in reparation for sins committed against the Immaculate Heart of Mary.”

Say often this beautiful prayer I found that Lucia was inspired to say,

“My God, I love You, in gratitude for the graces You have given me.”

In this way cultivate love and gratitude to God for your life and the mercies He has shown you.

Maybe you’re a mother with no one left to remember you? Take the time to remember Our Lady who is so much offended by the world. If you have not begun to say the daily rosary, start today. Say often the prayers above and strive to love God more and more each day.

Give UP your fear for the world and the future and instead lay it to rest on your Mothers’ lap. Like a good child do what she asks to show your love to her, she will be sure to take good care of the least of your cares.

Remember, #RealCatholicBeauty is loving your Mother, here on earth and doing what Our Mother in Heaven has asked us so long ago.

Start today without delay!


With love,

Rita Xo :)

RitaBiosmRita is a Catholic wife, and mother of seven, with three autistic boys.  Author, of “Immodesty, Satan’s Virtue” (2001) and speaker, she has a PASSION for making #realcatholicmodesty understood. She is a licensed Hairdresser, and Make Up Pro with a degree in Natural Health who enjoys essential oils. She enjoys making people smile and sharing God’s love with anyone who will listen. After overcoming a stroke, disabilities, they lost everything in a devastating house fire that made them homeless for six months. She is determined to lead souls back to Christ by finding the #realcatholicbeauty in their lives by carrying their crosses with Joy!

References:

  1. Thirty-seven percent of women obtaining abortions identify as Protestant and 28% identify as Catholic. Jones RK, Finer LB and Singh S, Characteristics of U.S. Abortion Patients, 2008, New York: Guttmacher Institute, 2010.
  2. Finer LB et al., Reasons U.S. women have abortions: quantitative and qualitative perspectives, Perspectives on Sexual and Reproductive Health, 2005, 37(3):110–118.

God’s grace is sufficient

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God’s grace is sufficient

By Rita Davidson

I took it easy yesterday, I ate chocolate, drank lots of water for my sinuses, used my favorite essential oil for sinuses Eucalyptus Radiata and painted my nails. You might be thinking well ‘she’s lucky!” ha I suppose I am.

I mean I walked out of a burning building with barely the clothes on my back and my life. I AM LUCKY. I am BLESSED. I really am.

But that doesn’t mean I don’t have hard days too. And the day before yesterday was hard. You see our house burned down July 2013 (our 2 year anniversary is coming up) but it’s not over yet and we still have many lose ends to tie up.

We have a storage trailer FULL of donations that we have to sell so they can take the trailer back. The campsite that we stayed at for 7 weeks after our fire has been very generous in keeping it for us since then.

As it got filled, we could not do anything with it since we had no room to store or use any of it. Living in the campsite trailer we didn’t use much at all. Linens and clothing, but we had no running water, couldn’t cook there, not a good indoor toilet even, so much of our time was spent sorting donations. It became our full time job.

Then as summer neared the end, we moved from there to our next place a cabin on a lake. It was roomier and we settled in pretty good there. Still no indoor toilets or running water or phone.

When we got froze out of there in December 2013, we moved to various motels until finally the trailer on our land.

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All those donations in the trailer couldn’t be used much and so we just kept them stored hoping we would have a house to move them into before they got damaged.

Well we moved here in November 2014 and then took what we could use in our house. Finally with real bedrooms and running water, it took 18months to get back into a real house.

No sooner did we move into this house winter was upon us and we couldn’t get anywhere near the storage trailer. Winter was a gentle respite for us after all that moving. Six times in Six months. It gave our hearts time to heal and our minds time to catch up to all that had happened.

Then spring arrived and we knew it was soon time to tie up our loose ends. So this week was the first week we spent cleaning up our land and trailer.

The boys are always sad to go back to our land. So many memories we had there for 10 years. It was a time when our family was all together still, our girls still with us at home. It is sad for us all. Liam and Andrew are both torn as they create this sad face on the rock.

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My heart breaks to be back there too. It’s like you miss the familiarity so much, but at the same time it has been torn from you so it’s not really there any more. It’s an ache I can’t really describe, but it’s real.

Then we spent time at our storage trailer, sorting through the many belongings and meeting with an auctioneer that wants to help us sort through and get rid of it. This was supposed to be donations to generate some money for us, and we find out that it all isn’t worth very much if anything for us now. Disappointment and I am exhausted from sorting all this stuff.

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As I reflect back over the past 2 years my soul is weary. I know it is a needful weeding this garden of my soul that God has plucked. My soul feels raw and bare. I don’t want to have to deal with what is to come but I know I must push forward with courage. I’m reminded God’s grace is sufficient. While my soul feels weary I know God is waiting for me to go through this next stage.

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Sometimes we just need to take the time to sit back, and take some ME TIME. ME TIME for you might not look like it looks like for me. Some call it ‘down time’. Whatever you call it, we know God doesn’t expect the impossible from us. He knows that along with our prayers, chocolate has a way of soothing the most, weary of souls. :)

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And sometimes nail polish. I don’t know why nail polish makes me smile, but if often does. When I’m feeling down and see a flash of these nails I smile. It helps me feel put together. Like I am worth the time it took. It helps me feel like I’ve taken care of myself. When my world looks and feels raw and unfriendly, like after our fire, a little kindness shown to ourselves helps heal us.

For you it might be a bubble bath, a skin mask, a foot bath, a good book? Whatever it is, God sees your pain and weariness and His grace IS sufficient. He can send you His grace through prayers and through that chocolate you just ate or those not too fancy nails perhaps.  :)

How do we find the balance between selfishness and vanity?  – For God’s grace is sufficient and we ARE living in the world. SHARE with me here.

With love,

Rita Xo :)

RitaBiosmRita is a Catholic wife, and mother of seven, with three autistic boys.  Author, of “Immodesty, Satan’s Virtue” (2001) and speaker, she has a PASSION for making #realcatholicmodesty understood. She is a licensed Hairdresser, and Make Up Pro with a degree in Natural Health who enjoys essential oils. She enjoys making people smile and sharing God’s love with anyone who will listen. After overcoming a stroke, disabilities, they lost everything in a devastating house fire that made them homeless for six months. She is determined to lead souls back to Christ by finding the #realcatholicbeauty in their lives by carrying their crosses with Joy!

Real Catholic Beauty, is finding the beauty in tragedy

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Real Catholic Beauty, is finding the beauty in tragedy

 

By Rita Davidson

In this third post in this Monday series, I’m exploring BEAUTY, not just the worlds view, but God’s view of beauty, #RealCatholicBeauty. You can find the first post HERE, and the second post, HERE.

DO you shrink from crosses? Did I just hit a nerve with that question? I bet I did. Perhaps it’s that diagnosis your waiting for that is scaring you? Or maybe it’s the future of your children, and what will happen to them?

Some of us look out to the world, and see the mother taken from their children, or the terror around the world making so many Christians suffer. Some days the tragedies hit so close to home, we catch our breath and try to not get paralyzed with fear.

We’ve had our own tragedies, besides learning to carry our many daily crosses, like the challenges of living with three boys with autism, we also suffered the loss of our home in a devastating house fire. Just barely getting out alive our life becomes much precious and well, fragile.

When I was in my 30’s, my health wasn’t so great, but my outlook was pretty good. Once I hit my 40’s, death seemed to loom at my door. First, with my best friend, Anne, passing away at 52 years, two children behind. Then losing our oldest children from the faith, that was a blow I will never fully recover from. My own mother’s cancer scare, hit close to home. After our fire, I lost my other best friend Susan as she worked so hard to help us.

Suddenly death is right there – so real.

After our fire, the veil between death seemed even thinner. Now I regularly look at my life and judge my actions, my choices, my belongings and more on that one golden thread – Death.

There is a sorrow about life, the undercurrent of our days, this ‘valley of tears’. The beautiful wind that is caressing me outside at the park while I write this. The sparkling sun shining down on me that I have waited all winter to see again. All this will one day be gone and replaced with our heavenly reward. What WILL be OUR heavenly reward?

When we are in the throes of life, we often have our head so far down, we don’t think to look up. When crosses come and take the breath out of our soul and take away our will to live, where do we get the strength to go on again?

If we haven’t trained ourselves to look up, how will we ever know HOW to find God? UP is the only answer when tragedy hits our life. God in His mercy loves us with an unending love. His love was so immense, you can see Him on the cross looking at YOU. Can’t you? This is the same God that is asking you, What WILL you DO for ME?

SO many of us are too busy asking, WHAT CAN I GET AWAY WITH?

The beauty in tragedy only comes when we finally look UP and see this tragedy is really the golden thread God is using to draw you to HIM.

Think of your life like an inside out shirt. As we suffer today, and struggle to know why, we are only really seeing the seams. Those rough edges of our life that seem so out of place.

It is only by developing TRUST now, that God will finally show you that final garment He is preparing for you. Those tragedies suffered for LOVE of HIM will be the golden thread holding all those seams together. What is so painful now, will be your greatest achievement in HEAVEN.

So dig deep in HIM and find your strength to persevere. True Catholic beauty is finding the beauty in tragedy.

What are you suffering today, that you don’t understand? POST BELOW, so I can HELP you understand these golden threads.

With love,

Rita xo :)

RitaBiosm Rita is a Catholic wife, and mother of seven, with three autistic boys.  Author, of “Immodesty, Satan’s Virtue” (2001) and speaker, she has a PASSION for making #realcatholicmodesty understood. She is a licensed Hairdresser, and Make Up Pro with a degree in Natural Health who enjoys essential oils. She enjoys making people smile and sharing God’s love with anyone who will listen. After overcoming a stroke, disabilities, they lost everything in a devastating house fire that made them homeless for six months. She is determined to lead souls back to Christ by finding the #realcatholicbeauty in their lives by carrying their crosses with Joy!

 

RIP Father Nicholas Gruner

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RIP Father Nicholas Gruner

By Rita Davidson

If you haven’t heard the breaking news already, April 29, 2015 Father Nicholas Gruner, passed to his heavenly reward.

The world shook as a great man left this world. He was mostly known for his work for the Consecration of Russia in his life. Whether you liked him or not, we can’t deny he worked tirelessly for his vision.

He was born in Montreal, Canada to a family of 7. He began in the 70’s to promote the message of Fatima thru a publication called the Fatima Crusade. It began as just a paper newspaper of all things, and changed through the years to encompass thousands of leaflets and sacramental’s distributed.

As the Church continues to twist and turn in the throes of it’s suffering, he went from being in good standing to “not” good standing (by some) and in the end, only God knows where he stands now.

Those of us that weep at the state of the Church today fear with him gone who will replace his great work? Surely this is not meant to die with him? I think we can all imagine what forces he has been up against in his life and work. Just do a quick google search on him and you will not only see negative comments but outright mistruths about him too.

This is a troubling time for sure, but not without HOPE!

As for who will follow in his footsteps? I only hope and pray Father Gruner planned this out before he passed away. We will need a very wise, and discerning priest to fill the large shoes of Father Gruner’s work.

I’ve also heard fears that the Chastisement must surely be near at hand now that he is gone. Truly, he was a great man, but only a small pebble in the grand scheme that God has. Do we truly have such little faith in God’s mercies?

For those that loved Father Gruner, pray for the repose of his soul. Let’s not do him an injustice by thinking he is already sitting in heaven, but continue to storm heaven for him. Pray for God to bless a successor if it is God’s will for Father Gruner’s work to go on. And remember, God has not promised us tomorrow, so let us make every single day count.

Resolve to do that one thing that is keeping you from falling into God’s arms. Maybe it is going back to confession, maybe going back to Church. Maybe leaving behind a sin you haven’t wanted to part with. Whatever it is, take that one step closer to God, NOW while you still have time.

May Father Gruner rest in peace, and may we all continue in our hearts the work he started to do by appeasing the wrath of God with our prayers!

Don’t worry, even St Therese was able to do MORE work from heaven, so maybe God has just “promoted” him to a more powerful position. :)

Have you met Father Gruner or enjoyed his work? Share with us your stories of him that we can remember his great work by.

With love,

Rita Xo :)

Photo of Father Gruner taken from Catholic Family News
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RitaBiosmRita is a Catholic wife, and mother of seven, with three autistic boys.  Author, of “Immodesty, Satan’s Virtue” (2001) and speaker, she has a PASSION for making #realcatholicmodesty understood. She is a licensed Hairdresser, and Make Up Pro with a degree in Natural Health who enjoys essential oils. She enjoys making people smile and sharing God’s love with anyone who will listen. After overcoming a stroke, disabilities, they lost everything in a devastating house fire that made them homeless for six months. She is determined to lead souls back to Christ by finding the #realcatholicbeauty in their lives by carrying their crosses with Joy!

 

 

 

 

 

Real Catholic Beauty, means giving until it hurts

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Real Catholic Beauty, means giving until it hurts

By Rita Davidson

In the 2nd in this series I’m exploring #RealCatholicBeauty. Beauty in our lives, in the eyes of God and the Church, with a little of the world mixed in. :)

Have you ever been in need? I mean REALLY in need. Either you couldn’t pay a bill that month or maybe you just were struggling to find the money to get the kids shoes, or fix the van?

Isn’t it HARD to ask for help? I mean who DO you ask? And once you know, you sheepishly think oh what will my (fill in the blank here) “mechanic” think if I ask for an extension? Or lets see if that used store has shoes for us instead of new. It’s not easy to be on the receiving end. That is unless you meet someone who truly gives until it hurts.

God’s only concern is our salvation. He doesn’t care about our hair or clothes, but if something will help us get to heaven, well He will be all over that. :)

After our fire, we were well, HOMELESS. We had to get used to ‘asking’ for things. I had to ask people for rides, (since our van burned in the fire and we had no vehicle for a month). Had to ask if we could use a phone since living at a campsite we had no phone of our own. Had to ask to do laundry, as we had no where to wash our own clothes. Then asking companies if they would be willing to replace our last order for things we had ordered online. Then came approaching companies locally like the Hotel that put us up over the winter when we had to leave our frozen cabin. I called up and asked to talk to the manager, and told him our “story”. That, we were burned out of our house, and were living with no running water, or indoor toilets for the past 6 months. Yes, that story. Then asked if they could put us up over Christmas so our boys could have a tree and a almost normal Christmas. Your breath catches in your throat as you wait for the reply. Oh the groans of pride as it rises up and threatens to overtake you.

Later that day, they had us put up in a 1000square foot suite for the Christmas season. Ahh the irony and the sigh of relief comes.

Then reaching out to the gluten free places to see if they would donate to us glutenfree bread since we were all gluten free. Again, you swallow that big CHUNK of pride in your throat as you croak out your request and patiently await the reply. Yes, we got our glutenfree bread donations for many months.

As hard as it is for us to ‘ask’ for what we need, what is important to God is other half of the equation – the response of those who are “being asked”.

While all these places freely helped us (in exchange for a link on our fundraising website) I was speechless by the kind of response from our new friend “Earl’ whom we met after our fire who said he needs to ‘give until it hurts’.

Looking back at all he has done for us since then has been amazing. From sealing up our trailer, to being a listening ear when we were in the throes of trying to decide how to rebuild after our fire. Never once did he make us feel we were taking too much from him.

It’s not so much what we say, as what we DO. We can GIVE a helping hand, but then spend our time ‘looking back’ to see when we will be done with this, that is not true giving.

This world is sorely in need of generous souls. This doesn’t always mean money. This could be of our time, this could be our clothing, this could be our material goods, this could be our prayers.

Today, step back, and ask yourself, “AM I GIVING UNTIL IT HURTS?”

Real Catholic Beauty is giving until it hurts. We want to reflect Christ in our giving. The other day we went with Earl to get our winter tires off. He has become a family friend and we don’t know anyone out here being in a new area. After we talked for a bit he left, and I went to pay for the tires. The mechanic told me Earl had already paid for them and smiled. Earl was long gone by then.

That BIG smile went up on my face from ear to ear. Here was giving that didn’t hurt. Here was the image of Christ giving until it hurts. I finally realized Real Catholic Beauty is when we can give BEFORE someone asks. Just imagine what the world would be like if all the people in need didn’t have to beg or ask for their needs?

Start today to resolve to become MORE of what God is asking you to be. Be watchful of your friends or Church families that might need that helping hand. Cultivate that Real Catholic Beauty in your soul by being there BEFORE they ask.

God has not promised us tomorrow. START today to spread that new conversation about making #RealCatholicBeauty a part of your life.

With love,

Rita Xo :)

RitaBiosmRita is a Catholic wife, and mother of seven, with three autistic boys.  Author, of “Immodesty, Satan’s Virtue” (2001) and speaker, she has a PASSION for making #realcatholicmodesty understood. She is a licensed Hairdresser, and Make Up Pro with a degree in Natural Health who enjoys essential oils. She enjoys making people smile and sharing God’s love with anyone who will listen. After overcoming a stroke, disabilities, they lost everything in a devastating house fire that made them homeless for six months. She is determined to lead souls back to Christ by finding the #realcatholicbeauty in their lives by carrying their crosses with Joy!

Real Catholic Beauty, finding God in the chaos

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Real Catholic Beauty, finding God in the chaos

by Rita Davidson

Life is chaos isn’t it? If you have many little kids under your feet, you are running from dishes, to meals, to activities and wiping running noses, doorbells, tripping on toys, dirty diapers and laundry. Sound about right? :) With our 7 kids this is pretty much what my life looked like, on top of our home business, and my writing.

As our children have gotten older, things have changed a little and I miss those busy days, even though I still have 4 boys at home, including a BUSY 5 year old. :)

Once our children get a little older, we look back and realize it all passed SO fast, like a dream. Wasn’t it? I mean just where did the time go? We were so busy DOING we forgot about BEING.

We are all desperate to find God in the chaos of our lives. I see women, in particular, struggling to find the straight and narrow path while raising families in today’s Godless world.

As I edit, a new edition of “Immodesty, Satan’s Virtue” I’ve been pondering beauty a lot. With my background in “beauty” as ‘the world sees it’; namely Hairdressing and being a Make up Pro, there is a BIG gap I see here.

  • I see mothers struggling to be MODEST, yet losing their kids to the WORLD.
  • I see mothers suffering to hold things TOGETHER, when the world is threatening to pull things APART.
  • I see women sacrificing BEAUTY in hopes of keeping in God’s graces and losing THEMSELVES in the process.

Welcome to my world. A calling that has been on my heart and mind for so long. I have a PASSION to help women feel alive again. I have a passion to help weary women LOVE God again. I have a passion to help women embrace their Real Catholic beauty. So, I’ve decided to pull together my beauty background and my faith, and dedicate Monday’s to challenging your Real Catholic Beauty.

Today I’m looking at dishes. Those mundane tasks we do each day. Rather than just DOING the dishes, FIND God in those dishes. MEDITATE on how Our Lady took care of the dishes of the Holy Family. How she took such care to make sure meals and dishes were done as PERFECT as she could. Don’t go looking elsewhere for God, find Him right there where you work. HE is waiting for you there.

My gift to your dry parched hands and soul. Here is my favorite Hand Scrub I keep at my sink all the time.  It will refresh your hands and your soul. :) Make it and enjoy soft hands to caress those babies and heavenly smells to reward you for finding God in the chaos.

St. Martha’s Dishpan hand Scrub

  • 1 teaspoon olive oil
  • 1 teaspoon honey
  • 1/4 cup coconut oil
  • 10 drops Vitamin E oil

Mix all the liquid ingredients in a metal or glass bowl.

Once mixed, then add your essential oils. You want to thoroughly mix oil-with-oil. These are a few that I have used:

  • 6 drops Frankincense
  • 5 drops Lemon (instant pick-me-up)
  • Lavender (would be really nice and relaxing!)

Research your favorite blends HERE.

Mix well.

Then add:

  • 1/4 cup white sugar
  • 1/4 cup sea salt

You can add more or less salt/sugar if you like it thicker or more runny. If you desire more smell, you can add more essential oils as well. Store in a wide mouth jar near your sink for daily use. Even Mark admits how much he loves this when his hands get dry!

To use: Scoop up a teaspoon or so in your palm and rub all over wet hands, top and bottom, up to wrists (or elbows if you need a good elbow scrub). LOL

Then rinse off the crystals but not ALL the oil. That’s it!

If your not sure where to get pure essential oils, I only use Young Living Brand after I broke out in a rash from using one from my natural food store. You can join me HERE to get 24% off.

At first it will feel a little oily, but fight the urge to wipe it all off. In a few minutes it will be dry and soak in and your hands have never felt so smooth! And for nearly pennies! :) Now remember to BREATHE in DEEPLY, those oils are relaxing and can help your day get back on track.

Dishes anyone?

Don’t forget to join me here each Monday as I begin a new series exploring your Real Catholic Beauty with tips, advice and more all designed to challenge you to go from weary mom to the beautiful saint God is calling you to be. Invite your friends, let’s get this conversation started…it’s LONG overdue. What is #RealCatholicBeauty to you? POST below.

With love,

Rita :)

RitaBiosmRita is a Catholic wife, and mother of seven, with three autistic boys.  Author, of “Immodesty, Satan’s Virtue” (2001) and speaker, she has a PASSION for making #realcatholicmodesty understood. She is a licensed Hairdresser, and Make Up Pro with a degree in Natural Health who enjoys essential oils. She enjoys making people smile and sharing God’s love with anyone who will listen. After overcoming a stroke, disabilities, they lost everything in a devastating house fire that made them homeless for six months. She is determined to lead souls back to Christ by finding the #realcatholicbeauty in their lives by carrying their crosses with Joy!

How did we get this far?

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Tuesday was the 30th anniversary of our first “date”. I shared this on my Facebook page. How did we get this far?

LOL it takes ALOT of perseverance and prayers to get through all the troubled waters of life intact. We’ve had about it all. Health issues, disabled boys, poverty, losing it all in a house fire and being homeless for 6 months while we wandered for 18months. Just to name a FEW of our crosses.

I have been reading many of YOUR crosses too and my heart always goes out to how I can help you have more peace, more happiness no matter what comes in life.

We have survived the storms with Gods grace not our own. 30 years is a victory for us! If life has you feeling like your ship is sinking, know God is there walking on the water waiting for you to take His hand.

Trust Him. (I can never say this enough!)

He really WILL give you the strength you need if you just STOP fighting and believe. I believe you can do it, do you?

Love you guys. :)

God bless you.

With love,

Rita & Mark

1908197_811707958910025_1991702795682638756_nRita is a Catholic wife, and mother of seven, with three autistic boys.  Author, of “Immodesty, Satan’s Virtue” (2001) and speaker, she has a PASSION for making #realcatholicmodesty understood. She is a licensed Hairdresser, and Make Up Pro with a degree in Natural Health who enjoys essential oils. She enjoys making people smile and sharing God’s love with anyone who will listen. After overcoming a stroke, disabilities, they lost everything in a devastating house fire that made them homeless for six months. She is determined to lead souls back to Christ by carrying their crosses with Joy!

 

Do you think the world needs more purity?

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Do you think the world needs more purity?

By Rita Davidson

I asked this question on my Facebook page the other day. It got some interesting replies, and NONE of them were “NO”.

Do you feel the world needs more purity? Why is that? Is it the smut we see in movies? Or maybe just the advertisements you see while driving in the city? Maybe your lucky enough to live in the country and not notice that.

More shocking is the styles you see on the street, or young girls from families you know. These good Catholic families you once knew and you can’t understand how the girls are now wearing tank tops, or maybe mini—skirts? How did this happen?

Maybe even mothers you knew are now wearing styles you never thought you’d see them in?

Or maybe you have been struck by the styles you see at Mass? Those low cut shirts, or too tight shirts with bare backs showing, or worse. What about those flip flops and general sloppiness at the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass? Summer is coming again..

In 1999 as I was writing my first book, “Immodesty, Satan’s Virtue”. I had no prior writing training. I loved writing and over the years wrote numerous articles for various magazines and home-school newsletters.

But then God placed this on my heart, and I was struck with an urge to write a book on a topic that had become near and dear to my heart; –> Modesty.

As I dug deep on this topic (One of my favorite things to do – research!) I was struck to discover a concerted effort to keep this information from reaching the faithful. Article after article made this most obvious and then in 2001, I finally got, “Immodesty, Satans’ Virtue” in print.

Fast forward 16 years and I have been knee deep in research again and praying how I can get this message out to closed hearts.

July 2013 , after walking out of a raging fire, when our house burned down, your fragile life suddenly looms BIG in your face. Picking through 6 feet of charcoal, the remnants of our lives, and finding my “Immodesty, Satan’s VirtueSAVED from under all that melted GLASS and METAL I realized God was showing me how important this topic was. We lived homeless for 6 months (well really 18 months, but I digress).

I had a lot of time to reflect and pray about this topic as I watched families around me blindly fumble in the dark.

“Immodesty, Satan’s Virtue” was the name of my book simply because “Immodesty” is the opposite of “Modesty”

So ‘IMMODESTY” is the tool Satan is using to blind us to the important things needed for our salvation.

When I asked this on my Facebook page, one replied, “Absolutely. It is sinful the way a lot of ladies dress.”

That about sums it up doesn’t it?

Without MODESTY, we will NEVER recover purity in the world.

Without modesty, Purity is LOST.

That is why my book was so important. Important enough that a raging fire couldn’t burn it. It’s not about me, it’s about this message. And that is why I am working hard to get this message out to a new generation.

Yes, this world needs more Purity. It can only begin with a return to Modesty.

This can only begin with YOUR help. Will you help me?

Post here to show your support, if you will pray for my work?

(Others LOVE to see how this concerns all of us!)

  • SHARE this message with those you love.
  • Tweet this #withoutmodestypurityislost
  • Tweet #realcatholicmodesty

With love,

Rita Xo :)

RitaBiosmRita is a Catholic wife, and mother of seven, with three autistic boys.  Author, of “Immodesty, Satan’s Virtue” (2001) and speaker, she has a PASSION for making #realcatholicmodesty understood. She is a licensed Hairdresser, and Make Up Pro with a degree in Natural Health who enjoys essential oils. She enjoys making people smile and sharing God’s love with anyone who will listen. After overcoming a stroke, disabilities, they lost everything in a devastating house fire that made them homeless for six months. She is determined to lead souls back to Christ by carrying their crosses with Joy!