When I was a single mother…
By Rita Davidson
Well that headline likely threw some of you for a loop eh?
It’s funny how our minds get the divisions of “right and wrong”.
It becomes so black and white in our mind once we are settled into our faith.
We become complacent and comfortable with our newfound knowledge of what is right and wrong. Our minds become fuzzy about all we DID to get this far. All those sins against the 10 Commandments that sure seemed pretty grey way back then. (No, not Fifty Shades of Grey!)
Yes, I was a single mother at 17 years old. The day after my 18th birthday I gave birth to a bouncing baby girl. I was with my then-to-be-husband (who now bakes fabulous glutenfree/dairy free cakes for us! See my Instagram page) The news came as quite a shock to both of us at the time. I grew up in a complicated, nominally Catholic household, that didn’t carry over into my life – YET. (You see God was working on me). J
After the test result I remember Mark asking, ‘did I think about abortion’?
You know those times in your life, moments that stand out so vividly from your life? I often think this is what it will be in heaven, where all of our life suddenly glitters in all those important spots that before were just once dull, ragged, crosses.
I distinctly remember answering, “NO”.
Not with emotion, not with zeal, just with matter of fact-ness. “NO”.
Believe me I didn’t know any better here – YET. And thank God that WAS the end of that story. Mark never brought it up again, and we instead humiliatingly bent down and picked up that ragged, old cross that was about to get much heavier and dusty.
That year was the year I/WE “grew up”, literally. Finding out I was expecting was a shock, as I was still in school at the time. But no one could have prepared me for the months that followed that would become some of the most difficult, in my then, young life.
Where did you come from? Yes, YOU- READING THIS!!?
Often we judge people based on their life or things they say – like my headline here.
Our minds RACE to the next obvious conclusion:
“Oh I know what SHE’S been up too.”
“Oh that is no surprise since…”
Are you guilty of this too? Sure you are!!! We are human aren’t we?
We find ourselves in much pain judging our own children’s lives with this black and white-ness of our “comfortable” faith. The dangers they are getting into, the Commandments they are breaking, the disrespect the, sin, ohHHHH the SIN.
But WHERE DID YOU COME FROM?
Did you not have SOME kind of a past? Did you not have to bend down and pick up that Cross, at some point, and leave your SINS behind?
Didn’t God send you that GRACE so you could LAY DOWN your sins?
Didn’t those sins make you love that faith, with your whole heart, mind and soul once you left them behind?
You and me both He did.
And we need to REST in that SAME GRACE that let us leave our sins behind and let GOD do the work of redemption in the souls we love. If He did as much for us, He surely is doing as much for our children.
Now go rest in That peace…
Rita is a Catholic wife, and mother of seven, with three autistic boys. Currently a writer, & published author, she is a former hairdresser, professional make up artist with a degree in Natural Health. She is now a Young Living Distributor. After overcoming a stroke, disabilities, and more, they recently lost everything in a devastating house fire that made them homeless for six months. She is determined to lead souls back to Christ by carrying their crosses with Joy!