How to Stay Warm and Modest in Winter

How to Stay Warm and Modest in Winter

by Rita Davidson

With fall leaves turning red and yellow and temperatures falling lower and lower Mary Beth (HT Mary Beth!) J Reminded me that this question comes up every year.

I thought it about time to write a post about this question, so everyone could benefit from this basic advice.

For those that wear skirts and dresses all the time (pretty much) we want to stay cool in summer, and warm in winter just like anyone else. This post will deal with keeping warm in winter.

Our home here is about 120+ years old, and has plenty of drafts. Our winter here, easily gets down to -30C or -22F on average with up to 4 feet of snow drifts, so cold and wet, is something I’ve dealt with often.

Choosing to be modest is a challenge at the best of times. It is not for the faint of heart, since some challenges could weaken the best of commitments.  Cold is one of those things that can really scare someone off. After all, we all know what it’s like to feel cold, and to get a chill that won’t wear off. It’s not healthy, nor do we want to get sick when we have our families to take care of.

In really cold winter, and in old houses that many of us have, we have more drafts and so need to keep warm so chilling is not a problem.

Wearing skirts may give us a few challenges to keep warm in winter but it is not impossible.

The choices are varied and thankfully so, since everyone has different needs.

Cold Weather Tips:

1. Try Wear Heavier Skirts: To help keep skirts from flying up in winter winds. Heavier fabrics are good at this time of year. Denims, and cordoroys, twills, and such. Heavier fabrics also help to keep the winds away from our bodies, acting like a windbreaker, instead of coming right through our clothing and skirts.

2. Wear a Winter Slip: If you want to extend the life of your summer skirts but help them be warmer, wearing a winter slip from flannel will extend the life of your summer skirts. Winter slips should be made of soft flannel or for really cold days, wool. A thin, but soft real wool is extremely good at keeping the heat in. I have often found used wool jersey skirts and was able to make them a wool slip in the winter for a fraction of the cost. Other options are to get a wool jersey fabric and make a easy slip with elastic waist. You won’t be able to wear these everyday they are so warm. For those allergic to wool, another option would be a silk slip. I have heard that silk is very warm and not as picky as wool can be. Having ruffles around the bottom of your slips can help keep the cold from rising up your skirt too.

3.  For feet: Keeping your feet warm will go a long way to staying warm. We often don’t’ notice our feet getting cold until it’s too late.  I would suggest wool slippers. If not wool slippers, even one with pile that can be washed, but will hold in the heat on cold floors. Long cotton socks or stockings should be worn in them. Our floors are cold so as long as I’ve got my feet in long socks and my shoes I do okay. Slippers would be warmer for someone that needs that extra warmth that shoes do not give. If you can’t find decent wool slippers, then an extra heavy paid of men’s wool work socks can be worn and you will never again have cold feet!

3. Layers: If really cold, layers are what keep in the heat. Remember it is not so much the heat that keeps us warm, as it is our own body heat that we can minimize loosing. So, use layers of various fabrics to keep the heat in. Start with tights, or leggings, then wool slip, then skirt, is the basic to keep warm in winter.

4. Layers on the body; Don’t forget your whole body needs those layers. Often we will get chilled because our necks are bare and drafts tend to chill us from there. So keep your neck covered, whether a turtleneck or a colorful scarf, you’ll be surprised at how much warmer you feel all over with just your neck covered.

5. Wear Thick Tights: Another option is to wear thick tights. The kind we were used to wearing when we were younger. This is not my first choice, since they are often only sized small. And I did not find these were warmer then using wool slips as above.  But for those looking for this option, the cabled knit tights can often be found at Walmart and Target in the U.S. when colder weather hits.

Online here are a few shops that you can look for cable knit tights:

http://warmlegwear.com/index.php?_a=viewProd&productId=2

I get all my knee socks from this place:

http://www.sockdreams.com

Other sources for leg warmers are:

http://www.foottraffic.com

 

http://www.babylegs.com

 With winter, comes dryness and our old friend, Static:

As winter continues and your many layers become a habit, you’ll notice static trying to build up. Wearing skirts that are hugging your legs tightly is not only unsightly, it is a real issue if it starts riding up on you!

1. Wearing natural materials of wool, cotton can help keep down the static.

2. Wearing a nylon slip between thick leggings and your skirt can help keep them from sticking.

3. Rinsing clothes in vinegar has been said to minimize static in winter. Using dryer sheets can also help.

Keep in mind that moving around, can help us keep warm and circulate our blood to keep us from getting chilled. Get up and move around at least once per hour if needed.

Getting enough rest will also help us to stay warmer, since when we are well rested, our bodies run better.

Special needs, such as arthritis, or other health issues like low iron might need special precautions beyond this list. 

If serious chilling is an issue:

1.     1. keeping a electric pad nearby, to put on your legs when sitting.

2.     2. use a hot water bottle at your feet, will do wonders to keep us warm when not moving around much.

3.     3. A regular blanket (especially of wool) will do wonders on your legs when there is a draft.

All in all, I hope you’ll find some ways to dress warm so you do not abandon your modest dressing. Remember that wearing pants can make us just a chilly, when it is really cold out. Taking simple steps to ensure you stay warm, will help you to see that modesty is possible!

Share with me what other things you have found to keep warm?

©Copyright 2012 Rita Davidson All Rights Reserved.

Rita is a Catholic wife and mother of seven children. She reverted back to the faith when her oldest was making her First Communion. By then, she had completed degrees in Hairdressing and Make up artistry. She went on to receive a degree in Natural Health and another degree in Art. At age 26, Rita suffered a minor stroke. With no lasting effects, this dramatically changed her outlook on life. In 1996, Rita began ‘Little Flowers Family Apostolates’ to reach out to other families with her new found faith, by creating unique Catholic books and resources.. In 1999, she wrote the bestselling, ‘Immodesty; Satan’s Virtue’. She was editor of ‘The Catholic Health Letter’ for 7 years. She has been a homeschooling mom for 20+ years, and has written for various magazines. She is honored that families have trusted her with their questions, needs and concerns over the years. She continues to write and reach out to Catholic families with her husband, Mark and their 4 boys through http://www.LittleFlowersFamilyPress.com

How to Live a Life of Holy Poverty

 

 

How to live a life of Holy Poverty for Catholic Families

by Rita Davidson

 

I hear from families all the time, how they don’t have enough money to go around. Dad is working, but is not bringing enough in. Bills get paid, but there is never enough for extras. Just when you get one round of bills paid another season rolls around and you have to find more winter clothes for your growing kids, that eats up the little bit that is left. Moms get itchy and want to start working not knowing they are getting in way over their head if they head that way. Are they not saying to God, “you haven’t given me enough in my life.” ?

 

Now just what is poverty ?

I have heard others say it was an evil. Caused by the worlds selfishness and thereby can’t be from God.

 

Well, let’s look at this. For one thing if we look back to the Holy Family, where was Our Lord born? Was He put up in the best hotel at the time? Did He have extra offers from many of the wealthy families offering Him their best room ?

No, in fact, He was refused from every place there. Doors were closed on the Holy Family. No one was willing to offer this God made-man a decent place to be born. Today, we are frantic to see that hospitals are clean and babies are clean and so on. Can you imagine your baby being born in a stable, a barn really, where pigs and donkeys live? Have you ever been in a barn? The smells alone there can scare out the bravest. I remember growing up on our farm, when in winter, the heavy smells from the cows would be strong enough to make the eyes water! I could not imagine having my baby in such a place.

But this was the place that God choose for Himself to be born.

 

Why? When He could have chosen anywhere else to be born. Even under a clean outdoor tree if He wanted. But no, He choose the lowliest place of all. He chose a stable to show us that even He was not beneath the lowliest place to be born. He did this to show us that no matter how little we think we have in our life, He had less.

 

Now come forward to today and all you and I have. From roofs that don’t leak (well mine just started. Ugh) to washers and dishwashers to keep our clothes and dishes clean, even the lowest of us, seem to have just enough. We struggle to get those homeschool books paid each year, and struggle to save some money on groceries this week, but it just seems we always ‘have enough’ but not any more than enough.

 

We look to those that have more than us, and find ourselves naturally saying, “oh I wish I could have that.” and we ‘sigh’. There is something to be said for ‘keeping up with the Joneses’ as its’ called, that can leave us irritated and disappointed with our lot in life. Never ask to live in anothers shoes you might be surprised how hard their life is compared to yours.

 

What is so wrong with having enough money, we say to ourselves? Why can’t we make just a little more so we can have, a little more?

 

But have we really looked at our expenses ? If God has seen fit, to give us a meagre income for our family, have we used it to the best of our ability? This has to be the first question.

 

You see, because with more money, comes more responsibility. When poor, the answers come easy. “Can I have a new skirt?” “ I want a new toy truck!” “Can I take music lessons?” and the answer is always easy. “I’m sorry honey but we just can’t afford it right now.”

 

But once we have enough money to go around, and those questions come up, what do you say then? In your mind your thinking, well ‘Jane, has way too many skirts, how do I break this habit of accumulation to her gently’. Or ‘bobby has enough toys, how can I say no, and make him understand’. You see when we plainly don’t have enough, the no comes easy. But when you have enough, the no’s have to be chosen more carefully. It becomes a delicate process then.

 

My father was an autobody repairman all his life. We always got the wrecks he salvaged for his own, after repairs.

 

Both my parents were as frugal as you could get, both living through WWII and had vivid memories that obviously led to much of their later life choices.

 

My parents were both extremely frugal, like recently, when my mother would sit in the dark as to not waste money on electricity. Yet, they gave away money, or things freely to people in need. We never needed new furniture when my father was alive. But we always had a good second hand whatever-it-was, couch, chair or what-have-you. He was a jack of all trades and so re-upholstered furniture when needed or taught my older sister to do it.

We never had much, and I never thought we had lots of money, but we always had enough. I remember the day when he opened his wallet for me, to show me the 2 inch thick billfold he had that day. He just chuckled and closed it. He was generous beyond measure, but we never felt in need. He took in cousins and more as they were getting on their feet. Fixed up old salvaged cars and gave them away to nearly everyone of his nine children when they first started driving.

 

We have to realize that with more money comes this responsibility to help our neighbor. Frankly many of us don’t have that generosity. And God knows what’s in our heart. And if we are responsible enough to give us enough to go around or if we would better get to heaven without that added cross of ‘where to spend it’. You see, it is only when we are in need, that God can show His generosity and make those miracles in our life that only come when we are truly in need.

 

Like the many stories we have of having an empty fridge and no money, and finding money in our mailbox. In time it became a joke for us, as this story of the empty fridge repeated itself, we knew there would be money there that day and there was! God has an amazing sense of humor, if we only let Him in our life. And it is in our need, that we find Him.

 

If we look to the Saints, we see St. Francis of Assisi, whose feast day we celebrate today. He too came from a rich family, but after his conversion, he threw off the shackles of his rich life, so that he may more better serve the poor. You’ll notice here, I said, “More better”. Because money has a way of clouding our vision. It has a way of infecting the soul, so that we slowly say “I want more”.

 

While money itself is not evil. Human nature is what it is. And we all are prone to ease and comfort. We are all prone to being weak and money has a way of expanding what we are. More of it either makes us a better person, by our generosity. Or more money makes us a worse person, by our greed and selfishness.

 

At the end we have to remember that we leave this world with nothing. We leave here as we came into it and nothing more. All we have is the time between our birth and death to make this a better world. All we have is this time between our birth and death to save our souls. And only God knows what is best for us to have, to do this. In the end, that is all that matters, isn’t it ?

Next time your really struggling with your finances, ask God what He thinks. You might be surprised at the miracles He sends your way!

Give me your thoughts below!

  

©Copyright 2012 Rita Davidson All Rights Reserved.

 

Rita is a Catholic wife and mother of seven children. She reverted back to the faith when her oldest was making her First Communion. By then, she had completed degrees in Hairdressing and Make up artistry. She went on to receive a degree in Natural Health and another degree in Art. At age 26, Rita suffered a minor stroke. With no lasting effects, this dramatically changed her outlook on life. In 1996, Rita began ‘Little Flowers Family Apostolates’ to reach out to other families with her new found faith, by creating unique Catholic books and resources.. In 1999, she wrote the bestselling, ‘Immodesty; Satan’s Virtue’. She was editor of ‘The Catholic Health Letter’ for 7 years. She has been a homeschooling mom for 20+ years, and has written for various magazines. She is honored that families have trusted her with their questions, needs and concerns over the years. She continues to write and reach out to Catholic families with her husband, Mark and their 4 boys through http://www.LittleFlowersFamilyPress.com