How to Save your Family from Failure, with the Rosary


How to Save your Family from Failure, with the Rosary
by Rita Davidson


When I started out as a new mother, my faith was the last thing on my mind. Growing up in a Catholic home, we went to Sunday Mass each week without fail. But that is where my faith stopped.

 

 Catholic schools in the 60’s, were busy teaching how to love, and be friends and encourage everyone to hug at the middle of Mass. Catechism lessons were unheard of but I have drawings from Grade 5 religion class with a Menorah and other ‘peace’ religion items that today are a shock to my eyes.

 

This was how I started out with the faith, and once life hit, and adulthood loomed the faith was a fond memory if anything.

 

Fast forward to a few children later, and the rosary was the first thing I had to teach myself. Saying the rosary was a real effort in humility for me, as it was embarrassing for me to say something that was so foreign to me. But I persevered and we spent many years saying it faithfully. I never said a rosary with my own mother until I was nearly 40 years old. How much of the faith was lost!

 

Fast forward as our own children got older; the rosary still on my list, but more often forgotten. As our children grew, lives got busier and we started dealing with scrupulous souls, it was hard to see how to fit in more religion when it was already ‘too much’ for some of our children struggling to know God.

 

Now I look back, with my three oldest children off in the world, without the faith and wonder where did I go wrong?

I tried to make all the right choices, but the devil got the better of me I guess. In hindsight I see how I omitted the most important thing of all, to keep my children in the faith:

The Daily Rosary.

 

It seemed every time it was time to say the rosary, there was one or another obstacle.

 Not able to round everyone up.

Doing errands late at night so rosary got forgotten.

A movie or something put on before the rosary was remembered and got set aside.

Children acting up and not able to settle down.

Having a late supper and by the time that was done, it was forgotten.

And on the excuses went.

 

While we lead a Catholic life in the day, it was the important grace from the rosary that was missing in our lives. How much I will have to pay for this omission I will never know in this life?  But, I share this if only to save you from the pain I have experienced.

 

If you are hoping to save your children in this world and get them through to adulthood as Catholics, the rosary cannot be omitted. I cannot say this enough. Our Lady of Fatima came down to remind us. Regardless of the obstacles, a way must be found.

 

Whether you have to drag your children from all parts of the house.

Or have them all lay on the floor to say it.

Or say it in the car if you can.

Whether you say it while kids are noisy or while some are not around.

Please say it.

 

While I cannot know all the causes of this breach in our family. I have paid the price from my failure to continue this practice, by being distracted every time it was time for us to say the rosary. I now have a lifetime of sorrow from losing my daughters to the world. Though I have hope that God will find another path for their return, it is my responsibility to pray for that success now.

 

May you love your children enough, to find a way to embrace them. And more importantly pass on to them the habit of saying the rosary that may one day save them.

 

What sorrows have you had from neglecting the rosary ? Or what success have you had you can share with me today ?  Does your rosary need dusting off ?

 

©Copyright 2012 Rita Davidson All Rights Reserved.

 

Rita is a Catholic wife and mother of seven children. She reverted back to the faith when her oldest was making her First Communion. By then, she had completed degrees in Hairdressing and Make up artistry. She went on to receive a degree in Natural Health and another degree in Art. At age 26, Rita suffered a minor stroke. With no lasting effects, this dramatically changed her outlook on life. In 1996, Rita began ‘Little Flowers Family Apostolates’ to reach out to other families with her new found faith, by creating unique Catholic books and resources.. In 1999, she wrote the bestselling, ‘Immodesty; Satan’s Virtue’. She was editor of ‘The Catholic Health Letter’ for 7 years. She has been a homeschooling mom for 20+ years, and has written for various magazines. She is honored that families have trusted her with their questions, needs and concerns over the years. She continues to write and reach out to Catholic families with her husband, Mark and their 4 boys through http://www.LittleFlowersFamilyPress.com

 

How to Teach the Faith, Through Literature

 

How to Teach Your Children Their Faith, Through Literature

by Rita Davidson

 

  Through all our approx. 22 years of homeschooling, our children haven’t seen the inside of a school,  until highschool. (Praise God!) Our eldest was, you could say, our *experiment*. She was always the one we tried all the new books on and so on until homeschooling became more familiar to us. We’ve sure made some mistakes, and some we can’t fix, but God’s grace is sufficient and we pray He will make all things new one day.


  Even today, sometimes I still feel like I haven’t learned a thing all these years homeschooling. Every child is so different that each time you start a new one on the ladder of homeschooling, you nearly have to *re-invent the wheel* at times. At a new stage in our life, we now have 3 disabled boys with autism and three of our eldest girls are all off in schools elsewhere. We can never really plan for what will come, but we do hope we can learn from each other. Homeschooling is flexible and it can adapt and change as our family changes and for this we are thankful.


  Many families ask us how we do it? What do we use?


  So, I thought I would take the time to answer some of these questions. Today I would like to discuss writing.


   Please email me your questions on any topic of families, modesty, or homeschooling for this section and I would be happy to answer it here.

Now; Writing.


  Some children take to writing, like a *duck to water* and some you couldn’t pay them to like it. Much like anything I suppose. But there is a secret to teaching them writing and language skills.
  It is teaching them to love to read. That is the first step.


  As we developed our homeschooling "style" we realized that what was most important was that they knew the faith.
  Once I realized this, it was then I wanted to create a *Catholic environment* so they could be surrounded by their faith.


  As we know living in this secular world, it is very hard for the faith to seem normal against all the screaming of the world to fulfill every desire there is, whether it is good or not.


  So I began to research literature. As I discovered the Catholic literature available, I realized it had this "Catholic Environment" that I was looking for. It was then I knew my children needed to read, and read alot they did.


  Some years our oldest daughter up to 60 novels per year. I created reading lists for her to choose from and she had the whole year to get through them all at her leisure.


  They say, "You are what you read." And I can say, that many of our children benefited from the extensive reading they did. Strong readers, excellent in grammar, prolific with vocabulary; it has carried them well.  Our girls were inspired by all the reading they did then. Our second daughter wrote a few novels before she was 18. While they are all away from home now, I do not want this to become your sure way to save your children, it surely wasn’t for ours.


  The secret here is that to have a child that loves to write, they must first have a love of reading.
  At first they may read just about anything. Even Kenna, our second daughter only read Garfield when she started out! But classics are always a good and safe choice to stick with. But, just because it is a Classic, doesn’t mean it is okay. So, be careful what Reading Lists you use.
  As they grow, you’ll want to wean them onto good Catholic literature. Now, I don’t mean boring adult things, but the good historical fiction that has been available (some now out of print). Many are now being brought back in print through small publishers. Our new series of books that Colleen Drippe writes is popular. Our family has enjoyed books like Enemy Brothers and other such Bethlehem Books, titles.


  If you have small children and are worried about your children’s faith as they age, this is the answer. The secret to protect their faith and developing good language skills, is by using Good Catholic literature. Make it a part of your lesson plans.
Start making reading lists that your children can pick at random throughout the year. They can hang it on the fridge, or in their room and just mark off titles as they read them. It is easy to keep track of for you and them that way. I still have years and years of written up reading lists that I keep finding everywhere. A fond memory I now and collecting.
  Give them an incentive of something small at the end of the year for all they’ve read. If they are slow readers, give them less to read, and more incentive to encourage them. If they are strong readers, then be sure to challenge them. Reading is truly a lovely habit to develop in them, as so few school children really love to read, much to their detriment.


If you can get them into the habit of reading you will find your language arts will go smoother, their spelling will improve, their grammar will improve along with other areas like geography or history that they read about. But, most importantly, using good Catholic books will ensure they learn the Catholic truths that will carry them through life.

 

Our girls were not so lucky. You see once in the world, the world was stronger, and they were not prepared for how deceptive and enticing it would be. We don’t have a rosy ending here (yet!). But I can say it was bad intellectual books they read that paved the way. They no longer have the Catholic faith, much to our sorrow.

 

Guard your children well, and watch the friends they have.

Fill them with good, interesting Catholic books for their age.

Be careful what they read.

 

More importantly, prepare them for the real world, and most importantly, pray for them. Pray for them daily and pray your rosary together. This was the one key I omitted at times, and I feel it was the most important key of all. All those graces need to be stored up for them. We never know what the devil might throw at them to steal them away from the faith. One day that  grace will be what they need to get them through the more difficult teenage years when their faith stands in the balance. And that …in the end….is all that matters.

 

Share with me your sorrows of homeschooling? or your joys ?

 

Copyright©2005-2012 Rita Davidson All Rights Reserved.

 

Rita is a Catholic wife and mother of seven children. She reverted back to the faith when her oldest was making her First Communion. By then, she had completed degrees in Hairdressing and Make up artistry. She went on to receive a degree in Natural Health and another degree in Art. At age 26, Rita suffered a minor stroke. With no lasting effects, this dramatically changed her outlook on life. In 1996, Rita began ‘Little Flowers Family Apostolates’ to reach out to other families with her new found faith, by creating unique Catholic books and resources.. In 1999, she wrote the bestselling, ‘Immodesty; Satan’s Virtue’. She was editor of ‘The Catholic Health Letter’ for 7 years. She has been a homeschooling mom for 20+ years, and has written for various magazines. She is honored that families have trusted her with their questions, needs and concerns over the years. She continues to write and reach out to Catholic families with her husband, Mark and their 4 boys through http://www.LittleFlowersFamilyPress.com