Letters to Fides – FEAR – When the World is About to Devour Us.

 

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Letters to Fides - FEAR – When the World is About to Devour Us.

 by Rita Davidson

 

Many of us take our faith for granted. We say our daily prayers and say our rosaries and go to Mass and confession. It becomes so common we don’t think about it.

 

But there are some of us that are not so lucky. When just being Catholic is a struggle. So many of us have different stories and different crosses. Here is a Catholic that I have been helping for a few months. I’ve changed the name to protect them. “Fides’ is the latin word for faith. And I pray this for them. I’m sharing some of their struggles with you in hopes it will help others. This is the latest installment, I may share more as time goes on.

 

 “I am so scared Rita. “

 

“I cant tell you how lost i felt. I cried and just prayed. Like nobody cares. I have no home to go to. Nobody to call back in *** to say I got here safe. NO close friends at all. It was just terrible. I really hate this life and always have. I dont know where I belong –“

 

“I started wondering how did I get to be the age I am with no friends--no one interested in me, nothing to Hold on to?  I feel invisible in this world. Why do some of us sensitive ones suffer so bad? And are alone so much?”


 Hi “Fides”,

 

I hope you read that article I wrote on Depression ?  I think you did

 

And perhaps my article on ‘Fear’

 

When your scared “Fides” , and your alone. Think of Our Lord. Think of how scared He was in the garden. As He prayed and knew what was to come, think of the fright He had.

 

The sweat of blood that came from His pores because He was so afraid to face His own death. Our Lord knows how you suffer, He knows your pain. He too has been there.

 

When you are scared and alone you must unite yourself to Him alone. GO to Him in prayer and tell Him all that is on your mind. He can be your friend in this world. This world that you are all alone in; Jesus is always there waiting to be your friend. The problem is He is waiting for us to turn to Him. He wants to give us comfort and graces.

 

 But often fear clouds our mind and keeps us not thinking about God. God needs to become a habit. Like a natural turning to Him when all is confusing. And that only comes with time.

 

 There is no greater teacher than going to God when you are at your worst. When your life seems so alone and so dark. When all hell seems bent on devouring you. This is when you must throw yourself at the foot of the Cross. I tend to like to be at the foot of Gethsemane. It is there I can most connect with Our Lord. There as he talks to His father in heaven and tells Him of his sorrows and fright. It is there I see myself kneeling behind Him. Just listening to Him. Just feeling my own pain, and just imagining reaching out to touch the Hem of His garment. Just that one touch, like the woman in the bible with an issuing of blood, that touched Him. I can see how just that one touch could heal me too.  It is there I get ‘hope’.

 

 Often, this is the only place you can go when your life seems so alone. 

 

Suffering is never for nothing. The pain we feel in our soul never goes unseen. God sees all, and is using this pain to mold you. He is using this pain to make you become the soul worthy of Him.

 

It is not easy. Being the clay in the potters hands is never easy. But that is part of what God has called each of us too. This is His will for us.

 

Just one reading of hell, makes one understand the horror of hell and how it is something even God wants us to avoid.

 

 I pray this brings you some peace today “Fides”, and I pray you take care of yourself and get good sleep and know that all things will be well again.

 

 God bless you,

~Rita

 

What words of comfort do you have for "Fides" ? Comment below:

 

 

©Copyright 2012 Rita Davidson All Rights Reserved.

 

 

Rita is a Catholic wife and mother of seven children. She reverted back to the faith when her oldest was making her First Communion. By then, she had completed degrees in Hairdressing and Make up artistry. She went on to receive a degree in Natural Health and another degree in Art. At age 26, Rita suffered a minor stroke. With no lasting effects, this dramatically changed her outlook on life. In 1996, Rita began 'Little Flowers Family Apostolates' to reach out to other families with her new found faith, by creating unique Catholic books and resources.. In 1999, she wrote the bestselling, 'Immodesty; Satan's Virtue'. She was editor of 'The Catholic Health Letter' for 7 years. She has been a homeschooling mom for 20+ years, and has written for various magazines. She is honored that families have trusted her with their questions, needs and concerns over the years. She continues to write and reach out to Catholic families with her husband, Mark and their 4 boys through http://www.LittleFlowersFamilyPress.com

 

11 Tips for Catholics about Depression

 

 

 

11 Tips for Catholics about Depression

by Rita Davidson

I once got a letter from a lady needing some advice on depression and tendencies to suicide. This is part of the reply I sent to her. It is adapted for today, as this was a number of years ago. If your struggling with your days, I pray this will be of some help to you. And I pray, that this person knows, I’ve been praying for them all these years.

It is difficult to wake up feeling worn out, thinking negatively. When you cannot find reasons to be happy, even though you do not have reason to be sad. If you look at your life and see that there is no trouble in any corners, no money troubles, no marital or family troubles, no recent deaths or divorce, no employment issues then you may be dealing with a kind of depression.

 Having dealt with this at various times in my life, in myself, and in my loved ones, these are tips we have found that have helped us get a perspective on depression and move forward.

 1. Be aware of your temperament. If you are not already familiar with this, start first with a good book on the Four Temperaments. (We carry the most popular ones on our website. ) After taking the test, if you turn out to be a melancholic type temperament, this would be a good indicator for someone who struggles with depression. Study what melancholic temperament means and it will give you many insights into yourself. 

2. Don't be afraid of being depressed. Many people become depressed more simply because they realize they are depressed and are afraid of the pain of depression. As long as you love God and your faith is not wavering then, rest in God's peace and offer it up to Him. He has promised He would never give us a cross we cannot carry. But we also must rely on Him for this strength. Remember you are safe in His care.

3. Look at your life and see if there is anything in your life that needs to change. Things like unconfessed sin can often lead to depression. Do not neglect this much needed Sacrament. People with depression need to be sure to use this Sacrament regularlyto keep their souls light and clean. But be careful of scrupulosity which is a brother to depression.

 If you tend to fret and worry about many sins and what is a sin, this can be a type of scruple and can very much overwhelm the soul. We carry Help for Scruples - Are you Scrupulous? that is very helpful to sort this out and bring some peace.

4. Do you have unreasonable expectations for your life?  Our life is truly a vale of tears, and while we often have times of happiness we have to expect suffering and misfortune at times. Meditate on those less fortunate than us, either spiritually or financially, helps us to be grateful for what we have. Try not compare your life to others, wishing you only had a ‘house like Mary’, or ‘a job like Tom’. Be content with what God has given you in your life. Be it illness or wealth. Things can always be worse. And pray how best you can use your situation to save your soul.

5. On a more practical note; Have you been sleeping well? Are you overworked or under-slept ? Many moms can relate to both of those. Lack of sleep can lead you to being overtired. Being unrested can definitely lead to being depressed as the body is worn down. Effects of it will start to show as the mind becomes bogged down with toxins and the minds has an inability to cope with lack of sleep. This is especially common for mothers of young children. Be aware of this. Be proactive and be sure you take a nap when you can, go to bed earlier if you can. And above all don’t feel guilty for needing sleep!

6. Are you eating well? Food plays a very large part on what we feel like. Lighter meals, eating more naturally and large on the vegetables can ease up stomach distress that can lead to depression as well. Most important is cutting out junk food. White sugar, caffeine, white flour, that lack needed vitamins for our body to cope with today's stresses. If you are struggling with depression and anxiety you may want to look into gluten/celiac tendencies. They are on the rise today, and this played a part in my own depression and anxieties.

7. Are you getting exercise? One of the biggest practical helps to combat depression is simple exercise. As we age we often don't move around enough. This can lead to a build up of toxins that can lead one to being depressed. Regular walks that are vigorous can help the body cleanse toxins that can lead to depression. If your busy with young children and can’t get out to walk, a rebounder sat in a corner is a way to get in some lymph moving activities and can even be fun if you include the children.

8. Do you have enough activity? By activity we mean, hobbies and things to keep us busy. Simple inactivity can lead to sins of sloth, and impurity. Lack of interesting hobbies can also lead us to depression. Especially if your prone to a melancholic type temperament. This kind of temperament, or any that are prone to depression, need to keep busy. There is a kind of ‘wallowing in our depression’ that happens, that we must fight.  When you hear people say, ‘oh it doesn’t matter, nothing will ever change’, that’s an indication. Depression is a whole body thing. When the mind is depressed it slows the heart rate, and keeps the whole body ‘still’. We must fight this and though we are depressed, we must find reasons to move.
 

Depression can also lead us to losing interest in hobbies.  Instead of waking up and having a slow start to your day. Get busy into an activity right away after you wake up and start your day, so that at the end of the day, you know you have accomplished something. Check it off on a to do list! That alone can help relieve us of the depression coming from being overwhelmed and thinking we have gotten nothing done. Getting on top of depression is about regaining control. No matter how small, if we can regain some control, we will feel better.

9. Develop a great love towards the Sacred Heart. Practice mental prayer, every single day. When one is depressed and thinking thoughts of suicide, we have to realize this is a ploy of Satan for us to loose our souls. Suicide is a grave sin against the Holy Ghost. By keeping a close relationship with the Sacred Heart, He can become your closest friend. Someone you don't just talk to on Sundays, or during morning prayers, but One you talk to literally every hour, every moment. Jesus is really like that. One we can talk to at all times. To pour forth our suffering and our tears. One whom we must be so close to that we will always remain on the right path no matter how deep our depression might be. Console the Sacred Heart with your sufferings and know that He is there for you and sees all. It can be a very great grace for us, to suffer interiorly for Our Lord and if we do it right it can only lead to our sanctification.
  If you don't already have devotions to the Sacred Heart, try read up on the Sacred Heart to find out how merciful is His sacred heart and from there grow to have a devotion to some aspect of the Sacred Heart through mental prayer. If you don't know how to do mental prayer we have books available on mental prayer here.

10. Know that all things do pass. This is hard to remember when we are struggling just to get through the day. But remind yourself of the last time you were happy. What was that circumstances ? Was it recent ? Remind yourself that happy days will come again. But keeping in mind as Catholics being prepared for misfortunes help us stay prepared for what is to come.

11. Keeping contact with family and friends as well. Many of us struggle with family members that do not believe as we do and do not support us in our way of life. This has become increasingly moreso as society has changed. Family can sometimes become the thorn in our side instead of the support we need. If this is the case, be sure to find good friends you can trust, that will support you. Having good family and friends can go a long way to helping us cope with a difficult time in our life and help us keep perspective.

 

 

 WIth all of this in mind. There are times that depression can be serious and does need to be treated. I do not wish to downplay this when needed. So, please prayerfully consider your own circumstances along with all I have said.

Ideally if there are no chemical reasons for depression, it is important to follow the above program and take care that your life is ordered the way you need it to fulfill your needs.
If there is a chemical reason for your depression the above tips will help you deal with your depression as you treat it as well.

 Leading a properly ordered life,  - not sinning, and keeping a clean soul with confession, taking care of the body God has given us with good food, all goes a long way to combatting depression. And I pray it helps improve your life today.

What have you done that has helped with your depression ? Share it here.

©Copyright 2007-2012 Rita Davidson All Rights Reserved.

Rita is a Catholic wife and mother of seven children. She reverted back to the faith when her oldest was making her First Communion. By then, she had completed degrees in Hairdressing and Make up artistry. She went on to receive a degree in Natural Health and another degree in Art. At age 26, Rita suffered a minor stroke. With no lasting effects, this dramatically changed her outlook on life. In 1996, Rita began 'Little Flowers Family Apostolates' to reach out to other families with her new found faith, by creating unique Catholic books and resources.. In 1999, she wrote the bestselling, 'Immodesty; Satan's Virtue'. She was editor of 'The Catholic Health Letter' for 7 years. She has been a homeschooling mom for 20+ years, and has written for various magazines. She is honored that families have trusted her with their questions, needs and concerns over the years. She continues to write and reach out to Catholic families with her husband, Mark and their 4 boys through http://www.LittleFlowersFamilyPress.com

 

Are we the Experiment Generation ?

 

 

 

The Experiment Generation

   by Rita Davidson

 
I was pondering the other day, how we have become the Experiment Generation. So many of us live from day to day, simply trying to keep our families fed, our bills paid, our vehicles running and the house clean. Not to mention all that homeschooling!
  
When our first babies were born, we did the best we could and many of us with older children can readily admit we made our first mistakes on them.
  
When our oldest was a baby and showed allergies to formula we switched to soy formula. At the time it was the best choice for her and now that she's an adult, she survived those early years, thankfully. Or so we think ?
   
But, recent research I've come across now tells us that soy is also the cause of thyroid problems. Hmmm? is it any wonder that she's been treating her thyroid for months now?
   
How many more things do we enjoy today, that are truly *new*, not really time-tested? Isn't it frightening to think of all the new things we allow into our lives, our food, our Ipads, our Iphones, our TV dinners, our Becel 'margarine', our "tide" and more. All without really and truly knowing the results in 25 -40 years from now?

The food additives, the food coloring, the food enhancers, and so many other things that we just take for granted. It's easy, it tastes good so let's eat.

With our busy lives and the ease of microwave meals and frozen dinners, we are really trying to do the best we can with our money and time.

Let us not forget how this generation has all but forgotten about God. In fact, this generation, is working overtime to get rid of God!

Many of us have opted for the simpler life, of making our own dinners, and growing our own gardens and having our own chickens, but this is not the life of 50 years ago. Today many families trying to life a 'simple life' in the country including gardens and harvests for the mother to pull in. But the dad is holding down outside jobs in the city, and these families are burning out faster than you can microwave a hotdog.
 
Seriously folks, this is a challenging time we are living. Atheism is rampant.

When appointments, shopping and lessons take us here and there, and everywhere, what else can we do? There is such a craving today, to slow down. To rest. To relax. To simplify. To breathe.

We not only need to simplify our schedules but in some cases, simplify our meals too. The simpler our meals are usually the healthier they can be. And while it takes more time, what it gives back in health can be priceless.

For families that are already struggling with multiple illnesses or allergies they are already trying their best for their families. These are the families that have sought the best paths for their children who needed more than modern medicine answers could give them. Our family has been found to be gluten sensitive, so over time our diets have had to change. Is it any wonder what is normal to eat today, compared to a meal 50 or even 100 years ago ?

We now have gluten and dairy free boys. And I am gluten free. The damage that gluten did to my own body is a testament to how damaging some things are today, we cannot see.

But, it is an exciting time to live today. With the advancement in science we now see that problems like downs syndrome children and autism can be healed and improved. Where there was never hope for these children before, today there is. Never before has this been seen. While many things about society today can frighten us, there is much to give us hope.

Don't allow your children to be the victims of the worldwide experiment today to weaken their bodies through man-made foods but, especially the world-wide experiment to steal the souls of your children through impurity and atheism. Just a look at society today is enough to make you shudder. But the watered down faith that is coming out of the pulpits, and being taught in the government Catholic schools is enough to make you weep. Recently I seen the local "Catholic yearbook", page after page, with pictures of children, but not one picture of the Sacred Heart. Not one picture of a Catholic Feast Day. A whole year of memories but God was not included.
I was looking at my own 'religion' books from Gr. 5. the other day. Granted this was a 'little while ago" (ahem!). Do you know what they were teaching me? How the world is a wonderful place, how we are brothers and how all the religions were equal. I'll have to pull my book out one day and share it with you. Where has the faith gone?
On top of that was the scandalizing teaching I got in 'health class' one day, makes us wonder just who is holding the reins today?

Watch what they eat, be sure they sleep well, eat a wholesome diet and get lots of fresh air and balanced activities. 

But, at the end of the day, please be assured that you have fed their soul too - soul food! Good Catholic books and audios! That you have provided their soul with nourishing food to read about the saints and the tremendous love that God has shown us through His Sacred heart.

Be sure that you clean it regularly, by bringing them to the Sacraments and making Confession a simple thing for them to do.

Teach them how to decorate their souls with the gems of devotion that will build in heaven an account waiting for them.

Keep the faith a living, vibrant thing, not a musty, dusty religion of rigor and rules.

What Christ has given us through His Church is a beautiful faith, tested through time to withstand all the fashions and experiments of the day. Let us hold fast to the traditions and bring the faith to our children in a vibrant way to engage their minds, but especially to engage their souls, so that at the end of this generation we can rest in peace knowing our children didn't become part of the Experiment Generation. But instead are resting with the Eternal Generation in heaven!

What do you think ? Share with me your experiences below!

©Copyright 2007- 2012.  Rita Davidson All Rights Reserved.
(Adapted from an article by Rita Davidson from 2007)

 

Rita is a Catholic wife and mother of seven children. She reverted back to the faith when her oldest was making her First Communion. By then, she had completed degrees in Hairdressing and Make up artistry. She went on to receive a degree in Natural Health and another degree in Art. At age 26, Rita suffered a minor stroke. With no lasting effects, this dramatically changed her outlook on life. In 1996, Rita began 'Little Flowers Family Apostolates' to reach out to other families with her new found faith, by creating unique Catholic books and resources.. In 1999, she wrote the bestselling, 'Immodesty; Satan's Virtue'. She was editor of 'The Catholic Health Letter' for 7 years. She has been a homeschooling mom for 20+ years, and has written for various magazines. She is honored that families have trusted her with their questions, needs and concerns over the years. She continues to write and reach out to Catholic families with her husband, Mark and their 4 boys through http://www.LittleFlowersFamilyPress.com

 

Do you find yourself fearful, having a hard time to pray?

 

 

 

Do you find yourself fearful, having a hard time to pray?

by Rita Davidson

 

 

Now just what is all that?  Well those are just some of the headlines I have seen in my own email inbox. I’m sure you’ve seen them too. If your online much at all, you come across them as much as you try to stay away from them.

 

Do you find yourself fearful, having a hard time to pray?
Do you feel as is all your prayers are for nothing and the world is falling faster than ever?

Do you wake up often with no hope, only dragging yourself through the day?

 

If any of this sounds like you then I think you’ve been bitten. Yes, bitten by the “newest bug” of the day. And guess what it is terminal too.

 

What is this “newest bug” you have not heard of?

Its call FEAR.

 

Yes, Fear. Sound familiar? Well, it seems that you’ve been bitten by that bug and it’s eating away at your soul taking away all the joy that should be there.

 

Where does this come from?

 Well for one thing, we are living in difficult times. With Church leaders backing down from their duties to defend the faithful and governments making unjust laws against Christians it seems as if all is lost.

 We hear talk everyday of ‘financial collapse”, “recession”, ‘radiation’ exposure’, the coming crisis, and more.

 We all know this society we live in is fragile. We know that our financial stability even our weather is fragile.  That is why as Catholics we thank God everyday for what we have. (Or we should be?)

 

Perspective

 

Lets get some perspective.  Around the world we have the Chinese government dragging women from their homes, from the streets and forcing them to abort babies as old as 9months pregnant. Have you ever heard of such a horror taking place today, as we sleep, eat and enjoy life? Well news and pictures are finally hitting the public, after much sacrifices by Chen Guangcheng.

 

We live pretty good with our food crops and cars, and air conditioning, and heated car seats, and drive thru’s and books and IPods and stoves and more. Yet we are the ones that are fearful everyday that ‘something is surely going to go wrong.” While our ‘brothers’ around the world are living in destitute, dirt floor homes, sorting garbage for a living.  Perhaps it’s because it all seems false even to us?

 

 

 

History of Christianity

 

Throughout the history of Christianity, Christians have been persecuted. Think of the early Church, the early martyrs. Look further in history and we see the Reformation and the killing of Catholics there. Looking further we see the French revolution and the thousands that were slaughtered as they overthrow the Church and the government. And more.

 

Scaremongering

 

Today we see scare mongering coming from the news stations. Recession is coming, then the unemployment is going up, you have a friend that loses their job, and so you believe this must be true.  I can’t say it’s organized, but ‘someone’ that runs all our news know that many people don’t ‘think’ when they watch the news and automatically believe it. It’s like the TV numbs our thinking.Then we also have the Catholic scaremongers. The ones that are always threatening with the End of the world, and the End times, and oh lets not forget the “Three Days of Darkness”.  (That’s a blog post for another day).

 

You know, I grew up in a large Catholic family. I had an aunt that was famous for this kind of scare mongering. She would always call my dad and ask him if he had all his canned goods saved up, as it was ‘coming soon.’ We became so afraid of this one aunt, we would hide in the closet when she would come and try not to ‘think’ because she might ‘read our mind’.

 

But I see similar tactics by some well meaning Catholic websites today. (Perhaps some are not well meaning, but I’ll try believing they are.) The Internet is rampant with people presenting themselves as Catholics, but before you know it, there is a spear of poison in what they are saying too.

Life is hard enough without having to find this kind of things from websites we are supposed to trust. Wise as serpents we must be.

 

Where to go from here?

 

Let me tell you a story. You remember the year 2000? You know the Y2K scare. Remember there was some bug that was going to shut down everything. That year 1999 was a tough year for us. I gave birth to one of our sons that year. Right in December. I spent much of that year sick as a dog (not knowing my gallbladder was acting up).

As the year came to a close and we had a new baby with us and Christmas joy, the scare of the Y2K possibility dragged us down. With no money to speak of at all, (as is our story), we could not store up all that was ‘recommended’ we should have. No canned foods, no beans, no water supply, and no dried goods. We lived in an 800square foot house with 5 children, no basement or even a closet. How could we store anything, let alone afford it? It was then that I asked God to protect us. I begged Him. It was then that I placed all my trust in Him to take care of us no matter what. I had to trust in Him, as I could not do anything for myself. It was not easy, but I forced myself to believe that it would be all right.

 

When I woke up January 1, 2000 - the world was still turning, I knew then that God does not wish for us to fear. He does not wish for us to remain fearful, store up goods, hunker down; stay low, and rotate our stores of food storage for that ‘fateful day’.

 

I learned then that it was ‘fear’ that allowed people to loose their charity. That fear, caused them to store up goods beyond their means sometimes. It caused them to worry unnecessarily and caused them to be unkind to people, to not fulfill their daily duty, as they should. This ‘fear’ caused them to neglect what they needed to do to save their souls.

 

And that is why I no longer allow myself to read, hear or see negative programs that only want to allow us to ‘fear’ the future.

News programs that tell us that ‘people are not spending we are in a recession’, yet a little research will show you the Growth National Product for the same time shows people are spending in hoards.

 

Lies come from you-know-who. And it is those lies that keep us bound up in fear. Then we read the same on Catholic websites and we find ourselves thinking negative about everything. Never hoping for a brighter day, just waiting for ‘the day’.

 

Frankly, anything that can keep us fearful and keep us from accomplishing our daily duty is not from God. All that is important is that you do what is required to save your soul, Today.

I do not know what God has planned for the End of the world, as I know surely it is coming. I do not know what God has planned to restore His church, as that surely has to come as well.

 

What I do know is that you and I may not live to see that time come. You and I may not live until the end of this year, this month, this day. Why all the fear for the future, when you and I may meet our end sooner than we think? We better be prepared for ‘that’ end.

 

Faith, where is God in all these scares we hear?
Where is thy faith? Why so weak ?

Why do we succumb to the fear mongering of the world?
 Where does this fear really come from?

 

Satan’ - the father of lies. He wishes to keep people in fear. He wishes to keep you and me in fear. If we can be broken, if we can be afraid, that is all that the devil wishes. For a population in fear is a population that can be controlled.

When we are fearful we become desperate. When we are fearful we lose hope. When we lose hope, we go through our days unhappy, not doing our best, not trying our best. And here is the key: When we lose hope we lose : our joy.

 

And joy is the one gift from God that no one can take away unless we give it away. Joy helps us get though our days even when we carry heavy crosses. Joy is what let the Saints go to their martyrdom singing.

Joy is what makes our heart sing, when our child takes its first step. And that joy makes our hearts joyful when we see a beautiful sunset.

 

 If you find yourself slugging through your day without joy, look again at your thoughts. Are you reading a lot of negative news channels that only give you the bad news of the day and the bad news to come? Are you reading Catholic websites that are always talking about dark times ahead? I say cut them all off. Stop reading, unsubscribe, disconnect. Do not allow these people to take away your joy, as well meaning as they may be.

 

Instead,

1. Take the day off from laundry (or whatever), and go spend time with your children. Get down on the floor with them and forget about your bills and your worries.

 

2. Pray sincerely offering up to God your worries and asking Him to help you to trust in Him more.

 

3. Then be sure everyday to fill your heart with joyful thoughts about the faith. Talk to God. So that your soul may be barricaded against the torrents of fear that seek to bring you and your family down.

 

 ©Copyright 2012  Rita Davidson All Rights Reserved.

 

Rita is a Catholic wife and mother of seven children. She reverted back to the faith when her oldest was making her First Communion. By then, she had completed degrees in Hairdressing and Make up artistry. She went on to receive a degree in Natural Health and another degree in Art. At age 26, Rita suffered a minor stroke. With no lasting effects, this dramatically changed her outlook on life. In 1996, Rita began 'Little Flowers Family Apostolates' to reach out to other families with her new found faith, by creating unique Catholic books and resources.. In 1999, she wrote the bestselling, 'Immodesty; Satan's Virtue'. She was editor of 'The Catholic Health Letter' for 7 years. She has been a homeschooling mom for 20+ years, and has written for various magazines. She is honored that families have trusted her with their questions, needs and concerns over the years. She continues to write and reach out to Catholic families with her husband, Mark and their 4 boys through http://www.LittleFlowersFamilyPress.com

 

Modesty isn't just about rules, it's about Love!

 

Modesty isn't just about rules, it's about Love!

 

  by Rita Davidson

 

 

  Summer is underway! And well, I'm sure you all noticed the immodesty around your town in this heat, have you ? If you haven't noticed, then you must be living near a lovely Amish Community?
 Or perhaps, you don't realize that modesty is a very important virtue for every Catholic from birth to death.

 Let me explain;
 
You have likely heard talk about all those silly rules we have for modesty. This long, and this short. I mean what is all those rules for anyhow ?
 
Well, for one thing, it's true. The Church as given us guidelines so we can use them to be sure we are at least on the right track. For some they hate to think of all those rules. Laws that they say, don't apply to them.
 
But what about scrupulous souls. Who spend a lot of time worried they may be immodest ? Worried this might not be modest enough and just trying to do what is expected from them ? Or what about those lax Catholics we all know, that say God doesn't care what you wear, it's just what's in your heart ?
 
Well, the Church gives us rules so that we have clear guidelines about what to do. Not too severe, and not too lax. Why else did God give us the 10 Commandments ? They were a set of 10 rules that we were to follow. Very specific they were too. We all follow those. Or we should be. Why would God give us such specific rules to live by ? I mean can't we just live and be good. Isn't that enough ?
 
Well, God knew we needed some guidelines. I mean He has to give us all the best tools to save our souls right ? So, when we steal, we are sure to know what stealing is. Or do we ? (well that's another blog post for another day!)

 But, if God gave us the 10 Commandments so specific for us to live our life by, why would He not also want to give us a set of specific guidelines that we could use about modesty ? Clothing ourselves is something we have to do everyday!

 Do you think God perhaps knew that times would soon be changing and He needed to give us something to carry us through to calmer times ?

 I think so. Especially after Our Lady of Fatima appeared in 1920 and said: "Certain fashions will be introduced which will offend Our Divine Lord very much. Those who serve God ought not to follow these fashions. The Church has no fashions. Our Lord is always the same. " Then she added: "More people go to hell because of sins of the flesh than for any other reason."

Just 10 years later, in 1930, Donato, Cardinal Sbaretti, Pref. of Congregation of the Council; Feast of the Holy Family, Jan, 12, 1930,  gave us these basic rules.

  So what are these rules, these guidelines for modesty ?

" a dress cannot be called decent which is cut deeper than two fingers breadth under the pit of the throat,

which does not cover the arms at least to the elbows and scarcely reaches a bit beyond the knees. Furthermore, dresses of transparent materials are improper."

 Simple isn't it ? But remember in 1928, there was no pants for women being manufactured. There was also no two-piece bathing suits, hot pants, shorts for women or belly button shirts.
But there was, sleeveless shirts and dresses then. And there was spaghetti straps.

So what do you think the Church was trying to show us ?

 Well, for one it was trying to correct the sleeveless shirts that were becoming popular at that time. It says 'cover the arms at least to the elbows'. That pretty much eliminates sleeveless shirts, spaghetti straps and cap sleeves.
 
"Two fingers breadth under the pit of the throat' pretty much covers the neckline issue. Two fingers measurement (how practical Holy Mother Church is, to not use a ruler, but a guideline like fingers, handy enough you always have it with you!)

Now the one that really confuses people is, "scarcely reaches a bit beyond the knees" We all know where our knees are and they are telling us the minimum is just beyond the knees. Well, I know of no shorts that cover that far down ? Nor any pants either ?

 I know I'm going to be kicked out the door for saying that, but I'd rather say the truth here than what is popular. If I can't speak the truth, there is no point for this blog.
 
I'm not going to give all those 'studies' that say where men look and such to convince you. Frankly if you need that to prove it, your like doubting Thomas.
 
When this guideline was given it was 1930, there was no manufactured pants or shorts for women. There just weren't. The Church at the time didn't give guidelines for pants, but for dresses and skirts. Because they were the standard clothing for women for the past 1920 years!
 
Now I could go on for an entire book on this one, (but that's what I wrote Immodesty; Satans Virtue in 1999 ) and I know many of you are going to disagree with me here. That is fine.

 All I would say is don't disagree with me, as I am only repeating what the Church has told us. So your fight is really with the Church then.

Remember, it was Our Lady that told us, "The Church is always the same". And so it is! Century after Century it repeats to us what we need to do to save our souls.

  God asks us to be faithful. He asks us to obey the 10 Commandments and live our life by them. He asks us to do His holy will and faithfully our daily duty. Practicing modesty is just one part of our daily duty. It is our responsibility to cover ourselves as we are 'temples of the Holy Ghost' (and men this means you too) and so the Church has given us guidelines so we can do so simply without worry.
 
God simply wants to see us save our souls. He wishes to see us all back by His side in heaven one day. Modesty is just one step in our spiritual life. Don't worry and fret about the rules for modesty. This long or this short. But realize the guidelines are there to help you as you start dressing more modestly.

The key is it's not just about rules, it's about Love. It's about how much are you willing to sacrifice to show Our Lord that you love Him ? (No don't accuse me of garbage bags and burkas here)

How much do you love God, to know He abides in your heart each holy Communion, and to know you too shall be veiled like the Tabernacle He resides in on the altar ?

  However you practice modesty, all that matters is that you start, that you take it seriously, and always ask for Our Lady's help.  And ask yourself, am I doing enough for the God I love ?

 What do you think ? Do you love God enough ?

 

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Rita is a Catholic wife and mother of seven children. She reverted back to the faith when her oldest was making her First Communion. In 1996, Rita began ‘Little Flowers Family Apostolates’ to reach out to other families with her new found faith. In 1999, she wrote the bestselling, ‘Immodesty; Satan’s Virtue’. She was editor of ‘The Catholic Health Letter’ for 7 years. A homeschooling mom for 20+ years, she has been honored that families have trusted her with their questions, needs and concerns over the years. She continues to write and reach out to Catholic families with her husband, Mark and their 4 boys; through http://www.LittleFlowersFamilyPress.com